If you want to change something about someone, try accepting them first.
See them exactly as they are, stripped of all the stories your ego is dying to tell you about them.
Make them feel seen, and make them feel understood. Do you know how rarely anybody is granted these two privileges?
And when you have done this, don’t be surprised if you find yourself having forgotten what it was you wanted to change about them in the first place.
Empathy is a super-power a hundred times more useful than anything you’ll find in a comic-book.