The more dependent you are on external events going a particular way for your well-being, the more miserable you will become until the day death finally relieves you.
But at least you won’t feel alone – the majority of human beings who have ever lived followed this exact path. There is safety – if not happiness – in numbers.
Fortunately, the reverse is also true.
If you adopt the mindset that everything that happens was meant to happen, and meant to happen in exactly the way it did happen, you’ll find soon that your well-being cannot be touched by anything outside of you.
Nietzsche called this “Amor Fati.” I have a coin in my wallet that I bought from The Daily Stoic with this on one side, and on the other, the phrase “Not merely to bear what is necessary… but love it.”
The miserable majority might not understand you when you live this way, but your life will be so meaningful that you won’t care.