Something shitty happens. Something you weren’t expecting.
Do you freak out, and act as though it’s the end of the world – something you couldn’t possibly recover from?
Or do you take a deep breath, and act as though it’s no big deal – nothing more than a temporary inconvenience?
Neither choice is right or wrong, but the two choices have incredibly different effects on how you feel able to proceed afterwards.
Where the first limits your options, the second multiplies them. Where the first shrinks your manoeuvrability, the second expands it.
Unlike the things that happen to you – which are by and large out of your control – the story you tell yourself about them is completely under your control.
If you don’t like the things that seem to be happening to you, it doesn’t mean these things are objectively “bad”, merely that you are painting them with colours you detest. Choose some colours you actually like. See how the world changes before your very eyes.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”