When you can’t do something, no matter how long you’ve been at it, it can be quite tempting to frame yourself as the problem.
You can decide to take it personally. To believe that the universe is out to get you. You can pour all this poison in both your ears about how you’ll never be able to do it and how you were an idiot for ever believing you had a chance.
Or instead, you can simply see the problem as the problem. And you’re just you.
You can decide that the universe is indifferent. That you simply haven’t found the way that works for you yet. You can tell yourself that you’re a human and as such you have certain strengths and certain weaknesses, and that if you keep at it – changing your approach where necessary – you’ll eventually get it.
Neither mindset guarantees success, but the first one guarantees failure.